AN INTERVIEW WITH TEYSA – RETURN TO YOUR SELF
I LOVE creating art with people. But even more than that, I love opening a door for my clients to embrace themselves for who they are, giving them an excuse to begin loving themselves on a much deeper level.
Let’s be real, being a plus size woman isn’t always an easy thing to embrace in the world we live in. (Hell, being a woman period!) Social media and advertisements have us believing we are less than. And though our thoughts and emotions are our responsibility, it makes it tough to constantly be told by society you aren’t good enough. Most of the time the message flies under the radar, almost subconsciously, and we never realize what is really making us feel inadequate. Though we are making some headway, we’re still seeing one type of plus size woman in the media. Add in faulty belief systems we’ve adopted throughout the years, from past hurt and experiences, and it takes some real work to reprogram our thoughts and beliefs.
I truly believe boudoir photography can be a catalyst in this transition. It helps us see ourselves through someone else’s eyes – gives us a new perspective and conquers fears so we can continue to grow. It’s life changing.
TEYSA'S INTERVIEW - A RETURN TO YOUR SELF
Teysa first came to me, like most do, wanting a sexy gift for her husband. But the underlying message I kept hearing was, this was for herself – to break free of the bullshit running through her own head. And let me tell you… this girl KILLED IT!
Check out Teysa’s Interview and some of her images below!
Honestly, it was the words from Roy Hick’s when he told me that Tara was all about body positivity. Then, I joined Tara’s VIP group and my jaw dropped at the artistic quality of her work… after that I was sold.
There is an honest quality that one picks up on in the first 5 minutes of meeting Tara. I felt like I had known her for years after having lunch and she gave me straight, honest answers about every concern I had. Between that and seeing the artistic design in her work, there was no one else who I would trust. Honestly, I feel there are 2 kinds of people in photography; those who love the cute mini sessions that are ohhh’d and ahhh’d over on social media, or those who look for feeling, depth, beauty in the rawness of life that is captured on film… if you’re the artistic one mentioned, then you need to choose Tara.
NERVOUS!!! But then, I got pissed off at myself. Something clicked in my brain after meeting Tara and while I had been on a path of personal discovery, I was being pretty modest and following the simplicity of basic boudoir. I was also thinking of everyone else except myself when planning my shoot with Tara. Tara had set up a Pinterest board to communicate what would flatter my body type (I am not tiny…any where) and I started looking at clothing differently. I marched myself up to my closet after a huge fit over Lane Bryant in text with Tara and literally became so angry, I was crying… something I do NOT do… no emotion unless its humor. Anyway I took that LuLaRoe infested closet and trashed EVERY SINGLE PIECE OF FRUMPY CLOTHING I owned. I then felt embarrassed but liberated and pretty much became Teysa again instead of Robbie’s wife or Braelyn and Sam’s Mom before going to my session…I recommend this experience 110%!
In the beginning I was nervous. You are sitting there getting your hair and makeup done like a queen but in the back of your mind you are marking off the tasks before you put on that outfit and let it all hang out. But the minute I stepped into Tara’s downstairs room, I was good to go. She was there to do her job but kept the mood light which loosens you up and all those reservations you may have walked in with completely disappears. I honest to goodness had the best time and left with this high that has yet to leave me…I would define that high as confidence….that is what Tara does, she has a way with a camera that produces a confident light within yourself.
I was scared to death I was going to get in there and either break a chair (I’m a big girl) or that I would let out a huge disgusting fart while holding a pose that would somehow show up in my pictures. I was also scared that once I saw the photos, that confidence I had would disappear and I would be mortified. None of the above happened!
I think it was honestly how easy the session flowed and how empowered I felt during and now to this day. I was not prepared to be who I am right now typing this questionnaire.
I learned that this Momma still has her groove and that I can still be sexy, even if I’m not the girl my husband married or the girl before having children. Sexiness is an attitude that comes from confidence in who you are and I used to have that a long time ago… I’m glad to see it is making a comeback and my husband is thrilled.
So I scared Tara because I was completely silent. She showed me a video to start and I just stared at it. I couldn’t believe I looked attractive and actually pretty. I was also in awe because she captured everything I love artistically. I have done family photos before and they never really caught who I viewed my family to be (with the exception of Roy Hicks but he knew us). Tara not only captured my personality but she nailed what I was looking for in my images. She pays attention to what you say and what you tell her, so fill out all those forms honestly!!!
Oh man, where do I start? For one, I will launch a blog and these pictures will go live… last year you would’ve never heard that out of my mouth. I also have started dressing more attractively and I’ve quit looking down at my feet when I meet people… that’s a huge one right there!
My inner dialogue has changed from “I’m not good enough” to “Fuck you, either jump on this train I’m driving or get off at the next stop”.
Listen to what Tara tells you and if you need someone to pump you up, call me! There is more to any woman than what meets the eye and Tara will bring that out if you let her but you gotta let that guard down and remove any negative dialogue running in that pretty head of yours.
You have a gift and you have an ability to build women up in a world set to tear us down. I know you’ve taken a break to find yourself but never once think you are not doing something good because what you’ve done for me, you’ve done for others and there is no medicine, doctor, or self-help book in this world that can create the feeling you give your clients. You are an artistic powerhouse that has no limits in sight… don’t stop what you are doing!