***If you’re offended by foul or vulgar language, be warned. But my daughter had to hear it before she was even 10. I know for a fact she isn’t the only one that has been (is being) bullied in this way.***
BULLIED – RISE ABOVE
I’m not trying to end bullying. Although that would be nice, I know it would be impossible. I was only trying to help my daughter in the only way I had left to help. I wanted her to feel what she was feeling and learn to move on. To deal with what life had handed her but to RISE ABOVE it; to grow stronger. I gave her a voice she never had in school.
My daughter began getting bullied in 3rd grade and lasted for 3 years. She was pushed, kicked and hit. She was called names such as whore, bitch, cunt and much more. She was told she was ugly and to kill herself… more than once.
“Look at this bitch like really delete ur instagram ur fucking ugly whore go suck a dick* and choke and die please do us all a favor”
I went to the principal, superintendent and even the police. Everyone acted as if they had their hands tied. As much as I taught my daughter to stand up for herself she just couldn’t do it. She was so afraid of the school’s fucked up system and fearful that the teachers would disapprove of her that she tolerated the abuse. I watched helplessly.
I watched my daughter go from a bright and happy child to a sad child who pulled away from the world.
With no outlet for the abuse, no means for it to stop, she turned to self-harm. It broke my heart. I couldn’t save her. I could only be there until she could save herself.
I felt so much anger at what was happening – so much pain and hurt. But, no matter how much I screamed and cussed the school system nothing got better. It actually made it worse. The principal called her a liar and she eventually quit telling me, or them, anything.
I decided to give her a voice the only way I knew how. Hoping it would help her in some way. I think it was to help myself too.
I took these photos almost a year ago but I didn’t feel she was ready for them until now. There was still a part of her seeking love from others and I felt she was neglecting to look within for that love she needed.
Today, I feel she is becoming a strong woman. She is still finding her way obviously, but compassionate and empathetic to SO many! She’s the biggest advocate for love of all diversities and it brings tears of joy to me as I type that. No judgement should come from man in any way; that’s God’s place and should only be reserved for him. Her heart is immeasurable. I’m so proud of her.
“The details are in the shadows”
During the time she was being bullied I kept reassuring her and myself that one day things would come together for her. That THIS time would not be all for nothing; it would be the reason she becomes stronger and more beautiful. It will give her a greater purpose in life. I believe we are seeing this part unfold now.